Choosing Your Toy

With the incredible variety of toys to choose from, how do you pick the one (two, three, four … !) that’s right for you? The choice can be daunting, especially (though by no means only) if it's your first sex toy.

Below, we've compiled a list of things to consider that our customers have found helpful. Feeling overwhelmed? That's okay. Take a deep breath, relax, and read on...

Your Body

All bodies are different and everyone experiences pleasure in a way that is unique to them. Your existing knowledge about your body can be a big help in choosing a sex toy that's right for you. One way to start is to decide if you are looking for a toy to help you explore new sensations, or to give you pleasure in a way that you already know you enjoy. If you're not yet sure what your body likes, don't worry: getting a sex toy can be a great way to start learning!


One thing to think about is how you want the toy to feel: for example, soft and flexible, or hard and firm. A heavier toy is better for applying consistent pressure to more sensitive spots – but a lighter one is easier to travel with! Different materials have different cleaning instructions, and are compatible with different kinds of lube: if these things are important to you, take extra care choosing the right material.

Shape and Size

Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. Choosing the right size is especially important if you'd like to use your toy for penetration. If you have a frame of reference for what feels good (for example, a number of fingers) – get the tape measure out! Use this as a guide, and remember to consider length as well as width. Toys can be the same size everywhere or tapered at one end. A defined curve is often helpful for locating and stimulating the G-spot or prostate. Some people enjoy the feeling of bumps and ridges against their sensitive spots; others prefer a smooth surface.


Some toys are made to closely resemble body parts in their appearance and texture, while others are more abstract. Consider what sort of design appeals to your senses. Where one person is drawn to sleek, modern designs, another might prioritise fun, bright colours. Looking for a friendly face? Some toys have those, too!


How do you imagine using your new toy - externally, internally, or both? Are there particular body parts (e.g clitoris, perineum) that you would like your toy to stimulate? Think about your mobility and any injuries you have, as these may impact which toy best suits you. If you want to play in the bath, shower or pool, make sure you select something waterproof. If you travel often, look for special features such as a locking function on a vibrator.

The majority of toys can be used creatively – a “prostate massager” is a “G-Spot massager” if you want to use it on your G-Spot! – but some offer more possibilities than others. Just take care when playing anally that you know which toys are safe to put up your bum – see our Anal Play info page for details.


There's a wide variety in the kind and quality of vibration given by different toys. A preference for a gentle or powerful vibe, or for a particular rhythm, can be a great guide when choosing a vibrator. If your instincts pull you towards something that can pulse or thrust, those options are available. Lots of toys have a variety of vibration intensities and patterns to explore – but some people find that one speed is enough. For more about vibrators, see our info page.


Vibrators can be rechargeable, electric, or regular battery-powered. Rechargeables are the more eco-friendly choice. The downside is that you have to remember to keep them charged! If you are looking for intense vibration, nothing can beat electric, but bear in mind that these toys tend to be heavier and less portable.


Something else to consider is how much you would like to spend on your toy. Maybe you know exactly what you want and you're ready to invest! If you're interested in trying out a variety of different toys, this might affect how much you want to pay for each one.

Still unsure? There's no rush to decide. We've found that sleeping on it, or walking away and drinking a cup of tea (really!) can help you figure out what your gut feeling is. And, of course, feel free to contact us if you want to talk your decision through with someone.